Friday, June 11, 2010
Hope And Happiness
| Life brings you surprises one after the other – some pleasant and some not so pleasant. When my son was born, it was the most beautiful gift I could ever think of but when it came to basics of motherhood (that includes feeding, cleaning), I was in for a huge surprise. I couldn’t imagine my life surrounding a little soul and I was doing nothing but spending my time taking care of him. The storyboard changed from the ambitions of a young working independent girl to a brooding mom changing diapers. I had the biggest identity crisis of my life until I took hold of the situation. The real strength of character lies in how you deal with what life dishes out to you. You cannot plan your life except waking up in the morning at 6:00, making breakfast and sending children to school … What if someday, your alarm chooses not to ring (for whatever reason)?
There are people who constantly blame situations, people around them for the bad happenings in their life (Believe me, I was also one of them at one point of life). If they feel so strongly about life being not fair to them, why don’t they do something about it? It is alright to be sad but life is not about gaining sympathy or finding comfort in tears. It is about laughing out loud with the most optimistic thoughts and having the fighting spirit despite all odds. I have come across many people in life who inspired me but at the same time those too who bogged me down. The art lies in keeping the inspirations close (as I have by marrying him ;-))and pessimists a little away from you. Like everyone else, I want my son to grow as a happy person and for that I have to lead by example. Children are like sponges who absorb everything that comes their way. The first experience of course comes from the parents. So live your life with hope and happiness and pass on the same values to your little ones.
Labels: be happy, child growth, happy baby, life, virtue of happiness |
Friday, May 30, 2008
Patience revisited
| Tough job at hand. No,I am not talking about your work place,its about raising your sweet little angel. A baby although a bundle of joy yet a nuisance at times. The reason apparently is language barrier. He cannot understand you and you cannot understand him.Its just like a Japanese talking to an Indian(no puns intended),both don't know what they are talking about but they keep on talking. The only thing that comes handy when interacting with a baby is patience,and that too filled to the brim. The first one year puts you to a real test of motherhood because you could hardly make out why a child is behaving the way he is .When he is happy,not an issue but when he is crying,which we dub as no reason,could be a very big problem for him. I always thought of myself as the most patient person around but I realized how easily my fuse blows away when I became a mother. I am still learning the art of calming myself down when my baby defies every boundary,every limit I have put on him.He is here to explore,to see,to know and he will do what he wants to even if you put him in a cage(virtually ofcourse). So what I am learning out of this one year of struggle is let go,stay calm and try teaching him with patience and love.You will many a times fail,the challenge is to be at peace with yourself and with the baby. When you feel you are going to burst, stay away from the baby. Babies although not knowing our language at this age can easily sense the anger. Hand over the responsibility for sometime to your husband or anyone whom you can trust with the baby. Relax and then go back with a revived smile to take over. Be as playful, as loving as you can be. Invent newer ideas to keep him away from the things you do not want him to pick or play with like divert his attention with his favourite toys . Music is what works for my baby, you can also find some alibi. Labels: behaviour, happy baby, healthy, patience |