Friday, May 30, 2008
|Tough job at hand. No,I am not talking about your work place,its about raising your sweet little angel. A baby although a bundle of joy yet a nuisance at times. The reason apparently is language barrier. He cannot understand you and you cannot understand him.Its just like a Japanese talking to an Indian(no puns intended),both don't know what they are talking about but they keep on talking. The only thing that comes handy when interacting with a baby is patience,and that too filled to the brim. The first one year puts you to a real test of motherhood because you could hardly make out why a child is behaving the way he is .When he is happy,not an issue but when he is crying,which we dub as no reason,could be a very big problem for him. I always thought of myself as the most patient person around but I realized how easily my fuse blows away when I became a mother. I am still learning the art of calming myself down when my baby defies every boundary,every limit I have put on him.He is here to explore,to see,to know and he will do what he wants to even if you put him in a cage(virtually ofcourse).|
So what I am learning out of this one year of struggle is let go,stay calm and try teaching him with patience and love.You will many a times fail,the challenge is to be at peace with yourself and with the baby. When you feel you are going to burst, stay away from the baby. Babies although not knowing our language at this age can easily sense the anger. Hand over the responsibility for sometime to your husband or anyone whom you can trust with the baby. Relax and then go back with a revived smile to take over. Be as playful, as loving as you can be. Invent newer ideas to keep him away from the things you do not want him to pick or play with like divert his attention with his favourite toys . Music is what works for my baby, you can also find some alibi.
Monday, May 26, 2008
Communication is the key
|Even before the child is born,he starts hearing.That's why they say that you should talk to your child when he is in womb wrapped up securely so that he feels comfortable when he is out in this big world of which he knows nothing. When he comes out,he won't understand even a word of what you say but he recognizes your voice,the tone of it and the love it showers. A baby will be able to make out of what you say until around 8 months old but that does not mean he is not listening. So keep talking to your child. Tell him about small things-his toys,things lying in the house and let him respond to what you say,sometimes with just a smile,a squeal or a giggle and you will realise,that in few months he is knowing the world around him through you.Stop him from doing what you think is wrong,I assure you he won't stop doing it but as soon as he starts understanding,he will understand the meaning of a NO. My 7 month old knows when I say No and stops there although after a few minutes, he is again on that track.|
These conversations make your child aware and teach him a very special art,the art of communicating,which sometimes even we don't abide to. Let him be the master of his own world.Let him explore the world on his own but he should know that whenever he needs someone,you are just right beside him. These small things lay the foundation for strong and open communication between kids and their parents which parents always yearn for and this starts right when the child is born.
So don't wait,start today.
Thursday, May 22, 2008
Use Diaper at night
The one thing that a new mom cannot avoid is the sleepless nights.The infant needs to be feeded at every two hours interval and on top of it the baby continues to pee. Certainly,getting yourself wet or changing nappies in the middle of the night will be the last thing on your mind.As studies show,its not preferable to keep babies in diapers throughout.The key apparently is the temperature. It significantly increases the scrotal temperature effecting fertility of boys.As grannies say,do not keep babies in diapers and I guess that's ok. You should use diapers only when they cannot be avoided and using them in night is also one of those times because a new mom also has the right to sleep peacefully and the baby gets up only when he is hungry.As the baby grows,he will get up less frequently in the middle of the night and his cycle will adjust to yours,this is when you can use diapers at night occasionally. Why I am saying occasionally because you need to teach your child that even if its night,bed is not the place where you should pee. I came across a mother who kept her baby in diapers at night for so long that baby,although now she is 4 years of age, pees in her bed in the night because she never got that habit.So restricted use of diapers can leave you much more happier and fresh when you get up in the morning.
Pampers,Huggies,Wipro Baby Soft: Best Buy
|To continue my effort to help new moms, I came up with the idea of this article. As a new mom,atleast I tried every diaper available on the shelves to find the best one,the one which is comfortable for my baby,soaks well and keeps trouble many hours away. And believe me,it was hard.To start with,Huggies is one diaper that's been talked about the most in India probably but I found that quiet disappointing because Its not at all what it claims to be. It soaks less (be ready to change the diaper every 4-5 hours),the bulk is there,and since it lasts only for meagre 4 hours,you are always in a lurch that when its gonna leak.Wipro Baby Soft,another household name in India,introduced very recently and I must say impressive. I t soaks well,baby feels happy but it does not seem to fit so well. Moreover,its just like any other diaper and I won't say it feels like cloth.Once it is wetted,it will feel like same as others and very prominent bulk which I cite as a reason for not so good fitting.Pampers for the active baby have really met my expectations. Besides good soaking capacity(lasts easily for 10-12 hours and can be even longer), fitting is very nice,allows baby to move freely,the straps are less clumsy.Ya,bulk is there but I think bulk is something which you cannot avoid when using a diaper.So As far as my observation goes,I found Pampers the best for my baby and I hope it works for you too.|
Finally we'll meet
|Hi FolksStarting my first blog ever with an article which I wrote for HT. It got published a week after my son arrived in this world and gave me all the happiness. So here goes my first piece of work:|
You're such a part of me.
Can't wait to hold you in my arms,
And hug you tenderly.
No matter what you look like,
You're beautiful, my love,
A precious gift bequeathed to me,
From heaven far above.
Each time I feel you moving,
My heart is filled with joy,
I'm counting every moment,
Till you're mine at last, my sweet
It won't be long until your birth,
Then finally we'll meet.
How wonderful it is to see your own projection venturing into this world. It always amazes me when I think about how a mass of cells develops inside a women's womb and magically life starts evolving in it. It’s the biggest change a woman ever has in her life. Everything changes- your body, your mind, your relationships, your career, your responsibilities. It can be very overwhelming to know that you are responsible for a tiny little baby who cannot do anything by himself/herself. It is you who are going to nurture and grow him/her into adult. This little bundle of joy may be difficult to handle initially but the kind of bond they share with their mothers can be with no one else. When the baby starts responding to mother's small gestures, I think that's when a women starts feeling like a mother, her maternal instincts come into play. People say that kids tend to take patterns of their mother's talking style even in their crying. Mothers need to get to know their babies and pick their cues and behaviors to know what a baby wants when. It can be very taxing on your relationship with your partner because he is so used to getting your attention every time and then suddenly he won't be getting it. That's the time when you need to take care of both the fronts with sparing sometime for yourself as well. You need to develop a relationship with your child, take care of the bond with your partner and taking care of your emotional well being. Your partner needs to be really supportive and caring during all these times. Managing home, career and baby actually require a lot of self-belief and I believe every woman has the endurance to go through all the taxing situations and come out as a winner. Sometimes while being a juggler of tasks, one may feel a little incompetent and I think its perfectly normal due to so many changes around but no need to panic because as time will pass, you will again be back on track, having full control over your life.
Having a baby is a basic human experience, and as such is shared across cultures and centuries. It makes one feel a part of the world in a way that nothing else does. Each mother and baby is unique and each one of us needs to find her own style of mothering. Each stage has its own blessings and pressures – but a baby can help us to love unconditionally and spontaneously. It is a huge growth experience that changes your life and your values forever.