Sunday, September 21, 2008
The Big D
| What come to your mind when you read the title???? Well no prizes for guessing but its the most important word in the dictionary of moms......... and its..... Discipline. Sometimes the kids appear too small and sometimes big enough to introduce discipline but I feel its never too early. As soon as you can start disciplining your child,the better a person he will grow into. Most of us don't even know and instinctively introduce discipline like sleeping habits,eating habits. These are nothing but varied forms of training your child. My 11 month old is very naughty.He knows when I am saying No but still will do those things. I don't know its out of sheer curiosity or the same behavior as adults (i have to do when some one says No :) ) But the good thing is that before doing something forbidden,he looks at me for the reaction and he is smart enough to play on it :) The crux is that you need to start setting boundaries,differentiating the good from bad, not always but sometimes ignoring the no reason cries and letting the child know your reaction.Its very important and it works. As you understand the child's behavior,he is also working on understanding you are saying and what does it mean. Only the closer family, mom,dad and sometimes grand parents are the ones the children of this age relate to and understand them. So be loving,be tough,be sweet and be the best you can. Tip: Before setting any boundaries and adhering to them,remember your child is still in the phase of understanding how this world and the things in it work so give relaxation one time or the other... :) Labels: child phsychology, discipline, habits |
Monday, August 11, 2008
Out of Control
| I have been lately seeing many toddlers who throw tantrums endlessly. Recently I met a friend of mine who has a 3 year old daughter.They came by to visit my place and her kid literally ransacked my house. She was not at all listening to my friend and was picking things from here and there and swirling them around so badly that I was about to have a panic attack. She was all time trying to have her way. My friend followed an escape route by saying "yeh to sirf apne daddy ki sunti hai" translation "she only listens to her daddy". I really did not liked her approach of surrendering herself and that too by mentioning this in front of the child to make the kid even more aware of helplessness. From that day onwards,i was so scared and thinking what makes children like this and how can I take care and not turn my child into a prankster. I mean being naughty is okay but there is a very thin line between naughtiness and hooliganism and I don't want my kid to cross that line. The more i thought about it,the more I realised that it was apart from naughtiness,a typical attention seeking behavior that you normally find in kids. Tricks according to me that can come handy:
The question still looming in my mind, "How will I tackle my child if he tends to cross that thin line"?? Labels: behaviour, child phsychology, habits, tantrums, toddlers |